Arguments and conflicts are inevitable part of our everyday lives. No matter how hard you try to remain calm, at least once in your life you may get close to the verge of losing your temper. However, many people are unable to control themselves and their emotions during an argument, so if you are one of them you may find the following tips very helpful.
1. Take deep breaths
Taking deep breaths will help you remain calm because slow and shallow breathing are the body’s usual responses when in an argument. Deep breaths are excellent for reducing the production of adrenaline and cortisol which are stress hormones. So, try to take deep and long breaths and you will relax much faster. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth.
2. Focus on your body
Being focused on what happens to your body when in an argument can be very helpful. You may notice that you are breathing shallow and you are very tensed. Once you focus on these physical sensations you will be able to relax faster. Start by relaxing your hands and shoulders and return to a more neutral state.
3. Listen actively
When people feel they are not being listened to, they often initiate arguments or some kind of conflict. Also, an argument can never be settled without active listening. So, make sure you are listening the person and make sure they are aware you are present in the moment. Don’t allow anything to distract you and in the end of the conversation make sure you have the necessary information for an intelligent response.